Tuesday, April 29, 2008
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up a nd discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
"Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One"
Thursday, April 24, 2008
Pizza galore...I had these pizza that you can die for...YUM!
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
In my life, i've seen people do not know how to use the toilet bowl in proper way. >,<
I noticed shoe print on the toilet bowl cover after a lady walked off from the washroom. -_-''
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Do you know what coffee and love have in common?
Both of them are sweet and bitter, and there are many varieties.
It's hard to switch once you get used to a certain flavor.
The flavor changed depending on the temperature, but it's best hot.
Both love and coffee are hard to give up!
You start when you're grown up.
And instant is also good.
On a raining day, you crave it more...
The mood has the big effect on it...
Saturday, April 19, 2008
Photos were taken at Sunway Pyramid.
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
We are responsible for what we are, whatever we wish ourselves to be.
We have the power to make ourselves.
Over the same sea, on the same winds; A ship sails in one direction, another in opposite.
It's not the wind that decides which direction the ship goes; its the sails ; how they are tied and how they maneuvered.
Similarly, it's not fate the decides where your life is going; it is all about how you take life and where you take it to.
Remember you are born to live, don't live because you are born!
Don't go the way life takes you, take life the way you go!
Whatever you give to life, it gives you back.
Do not hate anybody.
The hatred which comes out from you will someday come back to you.
Love others and love will come back to you.
The most difficult phase of life is not when no one understands you; it's when you don't understand yourself.
Monday, April 14, 2008
Ah!! I've been caught in doing this love tag passed by Jean
I self-doubt that do i still know and remember how the love feeling is??
It such a long dinosaur years that i am not being in love, fall into love and been loved. Thus, Jean you gave me this kinda tough job! *SWEAT*
*Copy the questions and answer them honestly.
1. What does true love mean to you?
I can't tell you what is true love?! Hardly to experience what is so called TRUE LOVE. We're all a little weird. And life's a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up in mutual weirdness and call it love.
2. How do you know you're really in love?
Weak on the knee, flattered inside the heart, always have a curve on face whenever you think of the one, always in day dream...fall into love sick. When you know another party is having the same feeling as you do with the common ground.
3. How many times in your life have you fallen in love?
I can't recall when i fallen in and fallen out from love. Lost count...LOL
4. Have you ever fallen out of true love because you were mad at the moment?
Of coz not!
5. Do you feel love and physical attraction are the same thing?
No, they are not the same thing, somehow both are one of the criteria and equally important.
6. If your true love became ill or disfigured would you continue to love them the same way?
Why not?!The hardest thing in this world is to find someone who knows all your flaws, differences, and mistakes but still loves everything about you.
7. Should anyone else be able to tell you who to love or not love?
End of the day is their mouth, i don't do what others told me, i listen to them but i will made my own decision and do what i like and i think it's right!
8. Do you believe people that ended up divorced were ever truly in love?
Yes, divorced doesn't mean they don't love each other, but again they been truly in love before, somehow just need to start another new page of life path in different way.
9. Would you give up something you want for someone you love?
Depends on the circumtances, but love always is blind!
10. If you truly love someone do you feel it should be unconditional?
Love always comes with conditions, if the person doesn't fulfill the criteria on your list, would you short listed him/her become your lover? end of the day, she/he must at least fulfilled your list and 2 strangers to get to know more each other and grow old together. Stand by each other till apart.
*Whoever would like to do this love tag is always welcome to pass on this true love tag!*
YES! I'm the drop dead silly person!
My clumsiness caused such an injury.
~1st terrified scene~
I was out for a special occasion dinner and end up drinking session at a pub. The pub was kinda dark, designed with so many steps here and there.
After a few drinks, crowd started to dance and grooved on dance floor. Just danced a while there, an idiotic black man kept trying to stay near and the crowd start to leave. I just follow the crowd and walked in a hurry, didn't pay attention on the steps! *proof* Suddenly my right leg over stepped and slipped into the pool next to the steps, my left leg still on the another step, half of my body fell into the little pool! *mind you, the steps not design with lighting and the pool was in darkness!* The pool water level up to my tight, half of my dress soaked inside the water, totally wet! poor my brand new heel!!
No one even noticed i was slipping into the pool, no one came over to assist me! That's totally not funny! It was awkward situation, i stood up and walked to the table grabbed my seat. I guess one of the Mauritian guy saw this incident. I text my friend in Oz & Brunei,told her i had a shitty night experience and i fell into the pool! Suddenly i felt bit pain and some liquid flew out from my knee, i touched with my finger in the darkness, *sniff sniff* SHIT! I was bleeding! Grabbed a tissue paper from a friend and i continuous sat there till the crowd to end their session.
* Mind you, i was not drunk!*
~ 2nd terrified scene~
My friend leave me alone at 3am, i've to drag my injured knee walked from Sunway Pyramid entrance to Sunway Lagoon alone! With half wet dress and heel, walked alone on the street, under the moonlight and strong breeze. I hold my clutch tight forced myself to walk faster and keep alert is there any one following me. Of coz along the way, i saw some guys look at me and walking pass my way. Found the level 3 entrance, walk down 3 levels and another 2 levels to reach the basement carpark. * What a pity of me?!* No one bother me, no one know i was injured and i ought to walk alone in terrified soppy feeling look for my car!
Excuse me, i'm a gal, no matter how tough i look like, i still need some protections and kind gesture! that totally upset me!
Reached home safely, took a shower and cleaned up my wound then hit my sack. Next day once i got up, i realized not only my knee got 4 cuts and bruises, my elbow got 4 cuts too! WTF??!!
~ Upset scene~
After 8 hours, got a statement that one heard of i danced till i fell down on floor!! Hmm...it doesn't serve the purpose after a 8 hours later, i don't need any help anymore!
Bah! I just briefly explain the whole horrible night i been through again! just summarized it blablabla i didn't see the steps, over stepped it and i slipped into the pool.
I guess i just plainly silly need to explain further since no one will care and bother whether i was injured or not? By assumed that perhaps i was drunk!
Oh yeah, one told me i actually can sue the pub of the negligence matter. Hm... i don't think i will do so.
It's never nice to know that a nice friend who seems to like and care for you a lot is not real.
Even the wound bleed and pain, the pain is not greater than some harsh words / actions, the hardest part is the words / actions caused so much pain than the cuts, hatred..
The pain felt in my heart was much more painful than the cuts.
It hurts from the inside and my wound hurt too when my heart is in pain.
My wound can't even hide away as i wore a dark grey pantyhose, my colleagues saw it even freak out! She and he thought i got robbed by snatcher!
Whole freaking boring day, i stayed up in office because try to reduce movement.
The wound getting hideous, the cuts got little bubbles and more bruises turn out. I hope won't get any infection!
Thanks to my friend that i've learned a lesson from this.
Wish me get well soon!
Sunday, April 13, 2008
This is special dedicated to James!
Today is his birthday!
His 1st birthday celebration in Malaysia, i've such a honor been invited to his birthday dinner celebration at Italiannies, Sunway. Thanks a bunch that remember me in the list. ^_^ We had a glorious time together (in a huge bunch of people) and enjoy the food ..yum yum!
The photos are coming soon...the rest will let the upcoming photos do the speaking.
Happy Birthday to you, James!
Wednesday, April 09, 2008
Just had a lip smacking desserts food tasting! Absolutely kill me instantly!
~ coffee & chocolate opera slice, apricot compote & cocoa nib tuiles
~ assorted chocolate pralines in chocolate basket
~warm blueberry sponge cake with vanilla anglaise & almond tuiles
~ white chocolate mousse and coffee with mango compote and hazelnut waffles
~ coconut mousse with passion fruit cream, coconut crisp and coconut passion fruit jus
I swear to god, once you have a bite, you gonna to ask for MORE!! simply reach your food orgasm!
Saturday, April 05, 2008
I love month of April!!~~ Why? Coz month of April brings me LUCK!! ^_^
I've got a lucky draw....from annual staff dinner..
A meal voucher ~ Hi-tea buffet for 2 pax @ Nikko Hotel, KL
Sounds good huh??!!
For service award, i've got a complimentary voucher to stay in Golden Sand Resort, Penang for 1 night, free breakfast for 2 pax, free adventure zone for 2 hours. Plus an Orient lady watch engrave with my name. HR told me the watch is worth RM500. o.O *i see*